Hi. It’s been a while since I have written something on my blog page. As lots going on both in my personal and professional life, it’s been tough to focus on writing. But to be honest, I have many things in my mind to write. Not sure about where to start and end. Let me write down all my thoughts and share them here. So that people with like-mindedness can get to resonate with my thoughts and situations.
First, can someone tell me, is it possible to predict someone’s life happenings, like what time they should be born? Where should they be born? To be born into a rich or poor family? How they should look? What their parents should be?
As far as I know, no one can predict any of the above-listed questions. But why the hell does society or relatives interfere in an individual's life to impose their decisions or comment on what should be done or how it should be done? I’m kind of sick of it.
This blog will be more related to someone who is in their late 20s.
Comparison begins when all of their friends and cousins are married and have kids too. To be honest, we are definitely happy for them, but why should we be compared and considered us as failures? Each one is different and has its own purpose of existence.
Some may be very good in their career, while some would be happy being a mother, and take responsibility of the family. Both are important, but it depends on what we have on our plate in the present. I don’t know when people stop whining about women should be married before 25, have kids before 30, and live for their husband and their family. Women are born to sacrifice. Mere stupidity, according to me.
Oh, wait, don’t think that I’m kind of taking sides for women alone. I can find lot more men outside who go through the same phase. It's just not about the gender; it’s about society and their so-known rules, which were created by those societies themselves.
When a woman says no to marriage, it has so many reasons behind it. It might be her past, her current situations, witnessing the health issues of her parents, fear about not being able to fit in, rejections, failure, loss of trust and confidence—what if the marriage doesn’t work? Can I walk out of it? Will I get blamed for a failed marriage? Does society leave my parents alone? Uff lot more.
Oh, wait, just because I have listed all the fears above doesn’t mean that I’m being negative or pessimistic. Yes, I do wish to get married, fall in love, and have kids. But these are all meant to happen naturally and wholeheartedly. Not by forcing it. To be more precise, finding the right one can help us erase our fear and live our life happily. Just because we don’t give damn to all the humiliations doesn’t mean that we are not hurt. We actually get hurt, tend to overthink, and sometimes lose sleep. In most of the cases, it will push us to depression too. Worst case is we have to keep smiling though we are hurting badly.
If we say that we have yet to find the right one, people will be nosy and ask us about our expectations. When we say we need a partner who supports us and understands us, so that we can grow together. But all we get a reply is we can’t find one like that. Try to get married soon and leave all your expectations. When you hit 30, you will be no longer considered fit for getting married. Dude, please give us a break.
If you find someone who is struggling with so many things, try to help them and be supportive. Don’t just burden them by adding few more worries on their shoulders.
You can ask me how I’m able to handle this hardest phase, thanks to my friends. Without
my friends, I would have not survived this toxic society.
Of course, SAI is my everything who leads the path in darkness.
To all the men or women getting humiliated for not getting married yet, just keep this in your mind: It's not about when you are getting married; it's all about to whom you are getting married. Also, someone who was commented for not having children for so long, dude, things happen when it has to be. Live your life and be the person in charge of your own happiness.
Getting married or giving birth to a child is not the destination. Each one has their own purpose. Let's live our lives by following the path that the universe has presented before us.
Who knows something bigger and better is waiting for all of us? Until then, just trust the process. Take a deep breath and move on!
I’m not sure if these thoughts can be connected to the readers or not. But I feel good after writing down all this here. By bleeding through words, I find my inner peace without lingering or disturbed thoughts. I would like to stop here with my favorite thought below.
"During childhood, we all longed for freedom to do what we liked. But once we hit adolescence, we do get the freedom, but it comes with huge responsibility, and we no longer need that freedom to exists in our life."
Stay tuned for my actual next blog; who knows my next whining too!
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